OK Ladies, 2015 will be your year! That’s right, if you’re single and ready to mingle, then it’s going to be a big year for you. I know it sounds ridiculous, but just hear me out. Dating has evolved, and it’s about time we set up some game-changing rules on how to handle Dating in the Smartphone Era. After all, even ordinary dating can be confusing, sometimes daunting and downright crazy.

Below is a quick 10-step summary on how to handle oneself when trying to find your catch in the online dating world.

1. Know what you want

We don’t always know what we want, I know. Sometimes we just need to figure things out. Have a think about the type of romantic relationship you would like to be in. Will it be a cheeky fling? A rebound? A friendship that might evolve into something more? Something serious and long term? You don’t have to share the details with anyone else, but be honest with yourself. What happens if you meet someone that is not on the same page as you?

Go with the flow, but don’t become too emotionally invested at the start. Let it evolve naturally and see how things go. Have fun on this journey.

2. Choose your platform and create a profile

Now that we have established what you are after, choose your online dating platform. Depending on the type of relationship you’re after, there are many different dating platforms. Just in case you need a little guidance, here is a taste of what is available:

You don’t have to share the details with anyone else, but be honest with yourself. What happens if you meet someone that is not on the same page as you?

Once you have chosen your desired platform it’s time to create your profile. Be open and honest – never lie! It could come back to bite you. Choose recent pictures that reflect the great person you are and choose more than one photo. The more photos in your profile, the greater the likelihood of people believing it’s actually you.

3. Choosing your suitor

When choosing your suitor, sometimes all you have to go by is their profile picture and a few tid-bits about themselves. Generally speaking, it’s a good idea to steer away from profiles that only have a single photo, any profile pictures that feature tigers of any kind, topless selfies – or any selfies for that matter!

4. Congratulations! You have just matched!

Awesome – you have just matched with a suitor! Once you’ve started a conversation and had a chance to chat, it’s probably a good idea to give each other a call. Remember, don’t give out your number but request that they give you their number instead. Let’s be honest, at this point you wouldn’t know them from a bar of soap. Be safe and hide your number when you call your suitor. Once a phone call has been initiated, it’s a good idea to set a date to meet.

If your date suggests the following activities then they could be translated as:

  • Tea or Coffee: “I just want to meet and see how things go”
  • Dinner: “I want to get to know you a little”
  • Dinner with a reservation: They are organised and impressive, with a touch of maturity, this person knows what they want and wants to get to know you
  • A pre-organised event or gig: They are adventurous and nice, they want to get to know you and enjoy something with you (this is a really good sign!)
  • Late night drink: potential hook-up

Remember, don’t give your number out … Let’s be honest, at this point you wouldn’t know them from a bar of soap

If a date is not set within a week of your first chat encounter, it might be a good idea to keep your other options open. It’s a ruthless game, but there are plenty of fish out there and you don’t want to miss out.

5. Date Set! Perfect, but remember be safe

Great news! Your date has been set, now let’s be sensible. This is a person you have never met before, they don’t know anyone you know (most likely) and may turn out to be a little bit of creep. So let’s take some safety precautions:

  • Tell your friends–hell, shout it out from the rooftops! This is one of the few times where you need to let your loved ones know exactly where you are. Make sure your “Find my iPhone” setting is set to “ON”.
  • Meet somewhere very public
  • Text your bestie right before walking into the venue
  • Ask your bestie to give you a check up call within 15 minutes of arriving at your agreed destination

6. What to talk about? The Conversation – keep it light and fun

Just remember you are fabulous, fun and every one wants to be around you. Talk about the fun stuff, ask a silly question. My personal favourite is, “If they were an animal what would they be?”(Very insightful–if they answer, “shark”, RUN!).

7. Go with the flow

Sometimes nerves just overtake us when on a first date. I know because it has happened to me too. Just relax, enjoy and have a couple of drinks. But, don’t have too many! You want to feel composed and relaxed at the same time. A general rule is to alternate between alcoholic beverage and water, that way you remain sober for longer.

8. All went well, or maybe it didn’t?

The date may or may not have progressed as smoothly as you would have liked. It’s OK to leave whenever you want to. Even if all went well and you would like to progress things further, you can still wrap up the evening and leave. What matters is how comfortable you feel with the progression of the date, and if you feel safe.

9. Keep the communication channels traditional

Once the date is over, say your goodbyes and let them know if you are keen to see them again. In most circumstances suitors will message you to thank you for a lovely evening, but sometimes that does not occur. If you feel like it, text them the next day indicating that you had a lovely evening and you hope to see them sometime soon.

Talk about the fun stuff, ask a silly question

Keep the communication channels strictly to text and phone calls. Try to remove yourself from the dating platform that you were on. Believe me, you don’t want to be snooping around seeing when they last logged on. For your own sanity, do not connect on Facebook, or Snapchat, or Instagram or any other social channel for that matter. Sometimes it’s better to just go with the flow and see what unravels. The simpler the communication channels, the better. Think back to the good old days when we only had a landline – wasn’t it much simpler?

10. Have fun – don’t read too much into it

The date may have been great, but don’t read too much into it. It was a great moment, great experience and most likely great conversation. I bet you can’t wait to see them again. Ladies take note – at this point in time, do not create these wonderful fantasies and daydreams on what your wedding day will be like or how your children will look. Repeat after me: “It was just a date. It was just a date!”. If there is no call back, that’s all good–there are plenty of fish in the sea. Get back on that bandwagon, girl! What are you waiting for?

Featured photo credit: Nicki Dobrin via photopin cc


Meray-Azar-Leaders-in-Heels-profile-picMeray Azar

Meray Azar is founder of Epic Catch, the dating app that will change the dating rules forever. It all started with one First Date! When she asked the guy out, what followed was one amazing night out. After a debrief with the girls the next day, it was decided there could be only one solution: develop an app that will change the dating rules as we know it. An app that only allows nice guys and girls to join, where everyone will have the chance to go on an Epic Date with an Epic Catch!

For more hints and tips on dating life, follow Epic Catch on Instagram and Facebook.

This is a series of posts that will be appearing on Leaders in Heels throughout 2014 as part of our site’s involvement in the Microsoft Connections Program. All hardware and services reviewed were provided courtesy of Microsoft.

The Nokia Lumia 1020 is a Windows Phone released in Australia last September. Its main selling point? It has a beast of a camera. With a much larger sensor than most other phone cameras (all the better to let more light in) and a resolution of up to 41 megapixels (MP), it’s little wonder that the photos it takes are comparable to a dedicated point-and-shoot camera. I put it through its paces when I went on holidays recently, and it did not disappoint. Below are the various features that make it stand out from the rest of the smartphone camera crowd.



I’m sure you’ve found that zooming in with a smartphone camera is never a good idea. Those photos tend to end up pixellated and blurry. The Lumia 1020, however, manages to set itself apart. Although it doesn’t have optical zoom like a standard point-and-click camera, what it does have is 41MP of detail that allows for a very clear, unblurry 5MP image when zoomed in. In the comparison photo above, you can see the normal and fully zoomed-in pictures of the items on my desk.



Cameras usually have very limited settings to play with. White balance, ISO, and focus type (macro, standard, infinite) are about all that’s available in the settings. The Nokia Pro Camera app on the Lumia 1020, however, has far more to play with. There’s the standard three features above–though it’s worth noting that the ISO and focus settings are far more fine-grained. Then there’s other features such as shutter speed, a setting only seen in higher-end point-and-shoot cameras, and contrast.

All of these settings are easy to modify–a small “dial” on the touchscreen pulls out from the main photo button, which you drag up and down to adjust. This was especially useful during night shots, where the auto mode tended to make the photos overly bright. I simply adjusted the ISO and the shutter speed, and I could have the photo looking exactly how I wanted.

Sensor Size



I won’t bore you with all the technical details of why a large sensor is much better (and really, should be what you look at over the number of megapixels a camera has). From a practical, day-to-day use standpoint, however, I can say that it means you get stunning detail, and much better low-light pictures as it’s able to take in more light. I’ve provided two examples above to show the detail and the low-light performance. Note that this is a low-resolution picture, due to site limitations.The link to the high-resolution picture will be provided in the comments.

Optical Stabilisation


Optical stabilisation is a physical element in the lens that shifts it to compensate for shaky hands (a crime of which I am terribly guilty). Nokia uses the phone’s in-built gyroscope to determine movement and adjusts the camera accordingly. I actually managed to take decent night shots with relatively long shutter speeds, which is impressive as I usually have trouble on normal point-and-click cameras. The brightness of the picture attests to the long shutter speed–but the image is relatively unblurred. Note that these are low-resolution pictures, due to site limitations. The link to the high-resolution pictures will be provided in the comments.

So what do you think of the Lumia 1020’s camera? Impressed? Unimpressed? Indifferent? We’d love to hear what you think in the comments!